Marriage Counsellor and relationship Activist Owurayere NapsArhin has advised men to first apologise to their wives when they offend them even before they think about sex.
A Facebook post sighted by www.trendingfilla.com, the Lady Rev. Expanciated of different marrital issues and gave reasons why men should first ask for forgiveness before they think about sex.
Ask for forgiveness before asking for sex period! Every sensible man will do this!
Ask your partner to forgive you of your offence (hurts) before putting her in bed. It just doesn’t work like you’ll not accept your offence but want sex…nooooo…especially the intentional ones ?
See,it is a good advise to massage,feed him with good food and good sex even when he has offended you, but will you have the happiness to participate with all those pains he caused still popping up in your mind?
My grandma used to tell me this,but I saw my same grandma flauting this rule by confronting grandpa and registering her displeasure about his actions bi(will deal with that later). Come and see how grandmaa couldnt keep mute, the pain grandpa caused her pushed her to voice out heavily eeehhhhh,to the extent that she even didnt realise my presence.
in this modern marriage of ours,this does not work 100%. We believe in jaw jaw or let’s talk about the problem before anything else. And if both couple are humble enough to see through this, hallelujah!
But come to think of it,if a man hurts a woman paaaa to her bone, which amout of counselling can make her open up for sex if that hurt still lingers in her heart and mind….?
Let us call a spade a spade, in as much as we preach forgiveness to those who are being hurt by their spouses, let us also preach “”ask for forgiveness from your spouses…””
When counselling, let’s open up and tell those who seek counselling the truth, give them instances,let them try asking for forgiveness, let them know the essence of asking for forgiveness and the benefits of being forgiven before asking for sex.
Who can enjoy sex with pains and hurts? It doesn’t work like that in marriage. Let us tell it as it is so that those seeking counselling will know the truth and work it out.
My advise to women is,try to forgive your husband before he ask for it. By so doing, you relief and free yourself from bondage.
Unforgiveness aankasa is prison ooooo.Don’t lock yourself up in this dark room where there is no light to see.If he won’t ask for it,do it first. Let him know you are a replica of that virtuous woman in the Bible.
To my men out there. Please try calming your wives down when you offend them to make way for peace,good sex and great joy at home, for when two elephants are at loggerheads,the green grass suffers.
Owurayere Lady Nanapanin Ahin & FamilyRelationship Matters